There was a large shift in my life when I learned my parents had imperfections.
I was told by someone close to me that you’ll have had a successful relationship with your parents if, after they pass, you can look in the mirror and only see the good that was passed down.
I am a product of divorce. My parents’ conflict towards one another was difficult. They shared the bad about each other, but I tried to only acknowledge their strengths. The pain they are in as a result of how they treated each other runs deep in me. I am the product of that pain.
Oftentimes this pain is the motivation for my work. The more work I make, the more I heal. I am grateful to have found dance as it is my vehicle and outlet. It has allowed me to externally create a family of artists needing a sense of belonging.
When I think about what lesson was most learned, it seems to be embracing pain. Use it as a vehicle to share vulnerabilities and foster a community of like-minded people to support one another.
Jacob Jonas is a director, choreographer and the Creative Director of Jacob Jonas The Company. www.jacobjonas.com
